Finding Her

Assalamu alaikom,

I know your probably wondering, Why in the world would she want to find her husband another wife?
First off I want to say that I love my husband dearly and I know he loves me too. He would never hurt me and he is always so kind and loving. I couldn't ask for a better husband. Allah (swt) has truly blessed me.
My husband did not ask for another wife. He never even hinted that he wanted another. He wasn't even sure about the idea himself. He told me when I mentioned it to him that, he loves me and he is happy with just me and to remember that he never asked for this.

My husband is just a loan to me from Allah. Allah gave me a such a wonderful blessing by sending my husband into my life. When I came to Egypt, I seen so many sisters that are single here. They all differ in age. Some are old and have never been married. The chances of bearing children to some has well done passed. My heart breaks because of that. I look on the news or even here and you iraqi widows, whose husband has been killed due to the war.
No there is not a shortage of men here in Egypt. There are plenty of single men who would also like to get married. But many times something is preventing them from doing so. Like a shortage of money, not having enough money to provide a home, school, or just an array of things.

But my husband is blessed financially and he can well take care of another wife. Someone who deserves to live a happily married life and if possible to bear children one day.
Before asking, Yes I can bear children.. no problems there. hehe I just had to place that because people always think there has to be a defect somewhere in the current marriage when a couple starts thinking of polygamy. That is far from the truth.

Anyhow, Just so you know that I am a normal woman, I also have become jealous in "Finding Her". This is normal for any woman. Sometimes I try to hide my jealousy but I think he always sees it in my eyes because he will stop whatever he is doing and direct his attention solely on me. Then the jealousy subsides. Because I know for sure I have a special place in his heart that no one will ever take away.
Anyhow, my ideal sister wife would be an Iraqi woman. He is talking to one now and I really like her. She lives here in Egypt now.. she had to flee iraq after her brother was taken hostage and her father died as a result. Anyhow, I pray to Allah that they get married and that Allah blesses the marriage as he has ours. Sometimes I feel sad when there is no mention of progress being made between them on marriage details. Because I really want this to happen.
But Allah knows best.

Anyhow, I know this may not sound normal to you, but I asked for this and I really want this. There are so many benefits in a polygamous marriage. Not only for the husband but for the women too. Example: Since I lived alone in the states, in my own house, I have become accustomed to being alone, and I enjoy the quietness amongest other things. I am more independant in this area. My husband on the other hand likes to be around people. He doesn't like being alone. Of course there are times I don't like being alone either but I think I have more of a balance in this area than he does. Sometimes when I ask to be alone he thinks he has done something wrong and he hasn't. So a sister wife would so benefit both of us. I could get my nights alone and he would remain in the company of someone.
Thats just one of the benefits.

All parties would have to put forth effort to make this work. NO this is not something simple. But it doesn't have to be so hard either. If you really have an open heart to this and your sincere, then yeah, you can make it work.

Let me tell you all a bit more. My husband had talks with another sister about marriage. We thought this was in place to happen.
Note: he had met the iraqi sister before the other one but she was afraid that her family wouldn't accept this marriage since he was already married. So they quit talking and he even blocked her on his msn.
I really like both of them but I really such a heart for the iraqi. I was kind of disappointed that she wouldnt be his wife. So anyhow we thought this other girl was gonna be the one. She was a real sweet sister and very nice.
Anyhow, I make Istikahara about her. I asked Allah that if he seen that she was the one and that she was really gonna come then send her, if not stop there talks. 2 days later she backed out. Subhana'allah.. But I also made istikahara about the iraqi even though it seemed that she was out of our lives. I prayed prayed and prayed about her. But I did ask Allah that if this Iraqi girl is not destined to be then please send another sister or help me forget her. 3 days later she got in contact with him. And they have been back to talking..
Allah knows best but I really hope and pray that they marry. If they don't then I know there is another reason Allah had planned for her to enter our lives. But I really have to believe that my prayers will be answered and she will be my sister wife, my husband's wife someday. Inshallah

Anyhow, well I have rambled on enough.

Salam